Embrace the beauty before you.
Introduction to Astrology
In the beginning of every relationship we must forgive.
It is true that we often talk of compromise. That we accept this or that because of something else that we love even more. Initial forgiveness is not about compromise. It is counter to compromise. Compromise assumes there is a some list that defines someone. Forgiveness is an acceptance of your vision for someone else is not what is important. It is an acceptance that “perfect” is relative and may take a form you didn’t expect.
Forgiveness in the beginning of a relationship is about dropping that list entirely. Seeing the person as a whole and either embracing that complicated mysterious being in a partnership, or not. We are not shopping for a partner the way one goes to the store. You can’t simply throw physical and personality traits in your cart until you’re satisfied, then note the store was out of this or that trait, but call it good. We are whole individuals, and everything about us is nuanced and interacting. Even something as simple as the concept of being kind changes what it means and how it is expressed in each person differently. Furthermore it is itself developed from their experiences which were molded, in part, by other personality and physical traits.
“We are not shopping for a partner the way one goes to the store. You can’t simply throw physical and personality traits in your cart until you’re satisfied.”
Instead we can simply ask “who is this person who I am attracted to and feel so comfortable with?” “Is this complex, nuanced soul someone who I want to invite into my life in partnership?”
Is there compromise too? Of course. Here is a great question that gets at compromise: “Do we have complementary goals and visions for the future, and complementary ways of living our current lifestyles?”
The person, however, should be accepted and loved for the totality of who they are. Forgive them for not being your dreamed up person, and yourself for not being some dreame up person either. In fact, just being who you are is far more beatiful.
For those interested, astrology is a great avenue for seeing the concept of totality I discuss here. It illustrates the dynamic sequencing that explains why many who are so loving are also indecisive, so stubborn also so stable… and so forth and so on.
So forgive and let go of the dream, and accept the magic standing before you. When you find a kind, loving, exciting new partner you’ll discover the true magic before you is better than you could have ever dreamed up. When you appraoch relationships with this curiosity of how to be the best partner for the unique soul before you, seeing them as they truly are, you may discover that your love and support could be better for them then you imagined.